The Zeman Elementary School Principal, Donna Williams, in Lincoln, Nebraska allowed this to go home with 5th graders. Basically, it tells students not to tattle on bullies…unless you PHYSCICALLY get hurt. They have since apologized, called it a “mistake” and “inaccurate” and said it wasn’t supposed to be sent home. Why? Because you didn’t want parents reading this ridiculousness?
Whoever wrote this should be fired. It’s obvious they were written by someone who is or was a bully themselves because only someone of that mindset could write something like this. Look especially at #2, #7 and #8.
1. Refuse to get mad. Anger is a feeling we have toward our enemies, not our buddies. If a bully finds out he/she can get you angry, you become their puppet…
2. Treat the person who is being mean as if they are trying to help you. No matter how insulting or mean they may sound, be grateful and think they really care about you.
3. Do not be afraid. If you are afraid…you automatically lose.
4. Do not verbally defend youself…the defender is automatically the loser. If we defend, we lose.
5. Do not attack. It takes two people to fight, so it’s the person who retaliates or responds who actually starts the fight.
6. If someone physically hurts you, just show that you are hurt; do not get angry. Did all the kids in town get exposed to gamma rays and there’s a bunch of little Hulks running around? If you get angry, they won’t feel sorry.
7. Do not tell on bullies. The number one reason bullies hate their victims is because their victims tell on them. Telling makes the bully want to retaliate.
8. Don’t be a sore loser. Lose gracefully and be a good sport; kids will like you better.
9. Learn to laugh at yourself and not get “hooked” by put-downs. Make a joke out of it or agree with the put-down. For example: “If you think I’m ugly, you should see my sister!”