Comfortable Means Vulnerable

One of the biggest mistakes in life is getting too comfortable.

Even in the best of relationships, getting too comfortable can set you up for a fall. When you get too comfortable you make yourself vulnerable. There’s nothing wrong with trusting people enough to take that risk. That’s what trust is. But, putting yourself in that position can have consequences. Getting comfortable with people isn’t a bad thing, but you have to always make sure you have your life vest handy so you don’t drown because you’ve become comfortable.

Too Much…or Not Enough

It’s very strange to grow up with a father who said “I love you” throughout your life & a mother who only said it to you when you were a child. Thankfully, I took my father’s queue when it came to love.

Why are people afraid to say it? Is it some kind of a pride thing? Do they think it will make them vulnerable? I’ve never understood what is so difficult about saying it, assuming you actually mean it. Yes, there are those who say “I love you” simply because it is something they think they are ‘supposed’ to say…particularly at church. They don’t really mean it. Love is simply a word they’ve been taught to say and repeat like a programmed robot. I’ve just never understood what’s so difficult about telling someone you love them when you actually mean it.

I have never told anyone I love them if I don’t.  I’ve also never been afraid to say it. Yes, love can make you vulnerable. People can and have taken advantage of my love. But, I’d rather be someone who takes that chance and says what they feel than someone who holds it in.  I always wished there were more people who told me they loved me, which I guess is why I say it as much as I do now. I WANT people to know that I love them and I don’t see anything wrong with it.  Most people WANT to know that they are loved.  Is there anyone who DOESN’T want to know that?

Some may think I say it too much.  Maybe my love isn’t worth as much as someone else who might say it, but that’s not the point.  I’d rather live knowing I’ve said the most important words while someone is living rather than saying it only when I’m standing at a funeral when it’s too late. Love means nothing to the dead and buried. The living need it more than they would ever let anyone know. So, I’d rather say it too much than not enough…just in case someone I love needs to hear it.

Passion

“When work, commitment, and pleasure all become one and you reach that deep well where passion lives, nothing is impossible.” ~Nancy Coey

I don’t think people think a lot about what it means to be passionate.  Having a passion for something…for anything…is one of the most important things we can do for ourselves.

It may seem silly to some, but having a passion for something that may not seem important to anyone else but us can be a catalyst into passion for even bigger things.  Passion is a hard thing to explain to those who have none. Most importantly, it’s one thing people can’t fake.

I Believe

I Believe

I believe that we don’t have to change friends if we understand that friends change.

I believe that no matter how good a friend is, they’re going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.

I believe that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.

I believe that you can do something in an instant that will give you a heartache for life.

I believe that it’s taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.

I believe that you should always leave loved ones with loving words.  It may be the last time you see them.

I believe that you can keep going, long after you can’t.

I believe that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.

I believe that either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I believe that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.

I believe that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.

I believe that money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I believe that sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.

I believe that just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.

I believe that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you’ve had and what you’ve learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you’ve celebrated.

I believe that it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.

I believe that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn’t stop for your grief.

I believe that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.

I believe that just because two people argue, it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other And just because they don’t argue, it doesn’t mean they do.

I believe that you shouldn’t be so eager to find out a secret.  It could change your life forever.

I believe that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

I believe that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don’t even know you.

I believe that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out, you will find the strength to help.

I believe that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.

I believe that the people you care about most in life are taken from you too soon.

~Author Unknown

My personal additions:

I believe that just because you may not be 100% accepted by your friends, doesn’t mean you aren’t “acceptable”.

I believe that just because you believe the lies others tell, doesn’t mean you’re stupid.  It just means you’re too trusting.

I believe that others not believing in you doesn’t give you an excuse to not believe in yourself.

The Impossible

The word “impossible” can either hold you back or push you forward. I wonder how many people have let their dreams go simply because they thought them to be impossible. Does the word impossible mean we should stop before we even try?

Impossible is just an opinion. It’s merely something that has yet to be done…or even attempted.

Think of how many things in the past were once thought to be impossible.

I’d rather not to be limited by things that are considered impossible. I’d rather at least attempt to turn the impossible into the possible. And, if we all sat back and let that word intimidate us, we might miss out on some wonderful discoveries about life…and ourselves.

Cleansing

For all the cleansing of our bodies that we do…inside and out, it’s hard sometimes to cleanse our spirit, yet it’s something that’s just as important.  It’s not an easy task, either.

Sometimes we just have to take some time and empty ourselves of things we care about:  our concerns, our disappointments, our purpose, our desires, our dreams, our worries, our ambitions, our resentments, our jealousy…all those things we hold onto that we THINK are important.  We just need to let them all go.  Sometimes, this may even include people who are holding us back.

Then, we can put back in those things that are really meaningful and actually enjoy the ride.

We get so wrapped up with need to, have to, want to, and can’t live without when we just need to clean out that space and have room to really LIVE.  And, once we clean out all of the “crap” we’ll actually find freedom and power in what’s left.

Yeah, I know…it’s a nice thought.  But, is it really possible?  I guess it depends on what kind of life you want to live and the determination you have to get the most you want and deserve out of life.

Enough

It is enough to be alive and to be able to experience today. It is enough that we can choose to live with happiness and thankfulness, despite anything we might be going through at the moment.

Much of our unhappiness comes from the empty pursuit of more, more, and more. The only way we will grow is if we get rid of what we THINK we need and accept that what we already have is enough.  Is it easy? No…

Much of what we think we need, we don’t. Much of what we hold onto holds us BACK.

It’s nearly impossible to get anything done when our thoughts are filled with negative things. It’s when we know we have enough that we become productive and effective.

To experience happiness and success is simply a matter of knowing that it is ours. We have to remind ourselves that what we are is enough, that what we have is enough for this moment.